Sitting Vigil at a Death Bed: A Checklist (2022)

How do we support the body, mind, and soul of a dying person?

We want to know how to tell if our loved one is in pain so we can get them the right pain medications. We ask what we can do to make a loved one more comforted and comfortable. We need to know the signs that a person is dying.

I wrote this blog several years ago but have just updated the content. I hope that you find some of your answers here.

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I originally wrote this post at the urging of four young adults who sat vigil at their mother’s death bed. They were completely unprepared for what they were faced. They contacted me for suggestions on what they could do to comfort their mother. At the time, their mom was dying from cancer, only had a few hours left to live, and she was rarely conscious. They asked me to text them a checklist of things they could do during the night to help ease her transition to death.After their mother died, they asked me to share the checklist I wrote for them with all of you.

I offer the following suggestions for things you can do while sitting vigil at the death bed of someone you love. This is not an exhaustive list of what can be done to comfort a dying person, but it is offered as a starting point.

1. Pain Management:Work with the doctors, nurses, hospice professionals, or end-of-life doulas to assure that your loved one has all the pain medication and muscle relaxant they need to be comfortable.

What are some of the signs that tell you the dying person is uncomfortable physically or in pain? The person may keep shifting around in the bed trying to get comfortable, or they scrunch their face up into a grimace, or their limbs contract in a muscle spasm. These are just some of the signals that they are experiencing pain.

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Running a temperature. When someone is dying from cancer, for example, their body can run a high temperature, and with those temperatures there can be seizures. In these cases, the patient may also need medications to relax their muscles.

Dehydration. Muscles often contract during the dying process from the lack of oxygen going to muscle tissue or from dehydration. Painful muscle spasms can occur during the death process. That is why doctors may order a pain medicine, like morphine, be given to a patient along with a muscle relaxant like Ativan. Because you are sitting vigil, you might notice signs of pain before any of the medical professionals do, so write down your impressions of the person’s pain or comfort level and note the time, then share those notes with the doctor, nursing staff or hospice provider. If you are not familiar with hospice or how to obtain hospice services for your loved one, please seeWhat is Hospice? How Do I Get It?

2. Physical Comfort – the mouth: When a person is in the final stages of dying they are usually breathing through their mouth. The mouth dries out quickly and that is physically uncomfortable. It is helpful to swab the mouth and gums regularly with a glycerin swab to keep the mouth moist. You can also apply a non-wax based lip balm on their lips so the lips don’t dry and crack. It issuggested that you keep a good supply of glycerine swabs with a cup of water to wet them in before use and a good lip balm (again, not wax based) at the bedside and use them at least once or twice an hour. Swabs are intended for one use, then throw the swab away and start a new one soaking in water for the next use.

3. Clean the Body While Sitting Vigil:Gently wash the face, neck, arms, hands, feet, and legs of the dying person with a lukewarm damp cloth if they are feverish, or a warm damp cloth if they are cold. After cleansing, apply a light moisturizer to their face, hands, arms, legs, and feet. This keeps their skin feeling clean and soft, and gives them the gift of touch through massage of hands and feet. This is giving them the gift of feeling physically cared for in the process of their death.

4. Peaceful Environment: Keep the room quiet, lower the lighting if you can, ask people to speak softly, no loud noises, no harsh lights, and just as importantly, no harsh words in the room. Limit the number of people in the room at one time, numbers of people can get overwhelming for everyone involved – the person who is dying as well as the family keeping vigil.

5. Time Out: Let the person who is dying have time alone. This may be hard to do because you want to be with them constantly, but they need time and space alone to transition. Please, take short breaks from the death bed vigil. You need the breaks as well to help you sustain yourself through the vigil. You could take a walk outside and get fresh air, take a shower to help wake up, change clothes, talk with a friend, eat a healthy meal, go for a short run or workout, or meditate or pray in a quiet space.

6. Fresh Air: Some cultural traditions call for a window to be open by a death bed, at least a small opening of a window to allow in some fresh air. It is believed that an open window in the same room as a death bed is needed to allow the souls of family members who have already died to come to retrieve the soul of the person who is dying, to take them into the next life. Others believe that if the room is closed, the soul will be trapped and unable to move on. Regardless of cultural or religious beliefs, fresh air helps everyone at the death bed because death comes with odors that are not pleasant and closed rooms get stale. If you can, open a window, at least a little bit, to let in air. Overly fragrant flowers are not helpful in a death room as the scent can be overwhelming, I suggest you clear them from the bed area or the room altogether. Set up a small fan to move air around. Keep the air in the room as fresh as possible.

7. Observe Religious or Spiritual Values:Religious and/or spiritual rites are important for many people as part of their dying process. Find out if the person who is dying wants a visit with a religious or spiritual advisor. Please do not wait until the last hours of life to ask this question because arranging such visits can take time. These visits could range from receiving the Anointing of the Sick (which may include Last Rites), or a religious person to pray with them, and/or to receive healing, or to resolve spiritual conflicts, or to receive counseling, or assistance with meditation. Reiki practitioners are also often available to offer healing energy work with the dying as well. Whatever the individual’s belief system is, please respect it. If the person who is dying asks for any form of a religious or spiritual or healing visit, please do whatever you can to make that visit happen for them.

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8. Dying People Say They Want to Go Home: The dying will often say they “want to go home” even if they are already in their home. I have always taken this to mean that they want to leave their physical body, they are done suffering, and they want to move on to whatever dimension/realm they believe follows this physical life. But it can be disturbing to hear this over and over, especially if you are caring for them in their own home.

The person may also be trying to get out of bed, saying they need to “leave now” or “go home.” That can be unsafe as they usually cannot stand on their own. Instead of saying “no, you can’t get up” you can place your hand about 3-6 inches above the person’s shoulder so that they encounter your hand as they try to get up. That usually stops them from pushing further with their desire to get up. If they are demanding and thrashing to get up, ask for medications to calm them down so they don’t hurt themselves.

I had one man trying to get up from his bed to “go home” and I explained his legs would not hold him up anymore and if he tried to stand he would fall. He looked at me and said “No, no, no, no, no. That’s all everyone ever says to me.” I quietly said to him, “you have the choice to leave your body any time and go to a place where they only say yes.” And I kept reassuring him he could leave his body at any time.

Whether they are asking to “go home” or not, I recommend that you, and everyone else participating in the vigil, tell the loved one that you are all fine and they can leave to “go home” anytime they want to or need to go. I suggest you repeat that phrase during the course of the vigil, especially when you are leaving the room for an extended period of time. You could reassure them that whatever they may be troubled by, either a concern for their spouse or a child, or with their own unresolved conflicts, they can trust that all will be well, and they can let go of this life in peace.

9. Talk to Them: Keep talking to the person who is dying, even if they are in a coma, or read to them. There is a strong belief that they can still hear and are aware of all that is going on around them. Speak from the heart, from a place of compassion, or forgiveness, but don’t speak from anger – it is not helpful to you or to them to bring up hurts or past wrongs.

If anger is keeping you from visiting someone who is dying, please consider readingAnger Stops You From Visit to a Deathbed? Suggestions.

You can also read to someone who is dying, if they want you to or if they are in a coma. For suggestions on reading to someone who is dying, you might want to check out one of my most read postsWhat to Read to a Person Who is Dying?

If you want something funny to read, you can check out my postIn Death, Laughter is Allowed!This post was cited in a USA Today article, FYI. It’s okay to laugh with the person who is dying, with family members and friends. Remembering the good times, or funny stories you shared with your loved one is okay to do. Remember the dying person’s life, not their death.

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10. The Dying See Dead People: People who are dying often say they see a loved one who is dead. They may say they see friends or relatives long deceased standing or sitting in their room or by their bed, or tell you they had a long visit with a deceased friend or relative. If you hear this kind of statement, please don’t argue with them or tell them that person is dead and isn’t in the room. Whatever they are seeing, whether it is a dead spouse, or deceased siblings, or dead friends, you could reassure them that those loved ones are there for them, to help them move on. Hopefully, those visions are a comfort to them. Maybe their visions of being visited by dead relatives or friends at the time of their death can be a comfort to you as well.

11. Music: If you play music while sitting vigil, please do so quietly with no one talking over the music, and play it only intermittently. Please do not put the speakers right at the head/ears of the person who is dying. The person who is dying needs a quiet space, a tranquil space, to transition from their body, not a party with music playing and people talking over the music – unless they ask for such a party to happen!

12: Skype: Yes, I just said Skype! Video calling services, like Skype or its equivalents – like Google Chat or Facetime – offer an amazing tool to use if close relatives or friends cannot get to the death bed of someone they love. I recently advised a family preparing to sit vigil where two of the adult children were in foreign countries and could not make it back to be with their mother who was dying. The one child who was with their mother set up her own personal laptop and her Ipad and Skyped her two siblings into their mother’s room to keep vigil with her. Using Skype, all three of them could talk with each other, talk with their mother when she was conscious, and ask questions of the nurses.

According to the adult child who was present with their mother, Skyping her brother and sister in to share in the vigil at their mother’s death bed helped her tremendously because she did not feel alone and overwhelmed, and there was shared decision-making. Best of all, there was shared time during the moments their mom was conscious, and they all felt they experienced the death of their mother together as a family in real time – no one was left out.

I encourage you to think about the use of technology to bring everyone together to sit vigil and be included in the experience of the death of a loved one.

NOTE: Some hospitals and nursing homes do not have internet access in individual patient rooms. If you are going to Skype, please be prepared to create a hotspot using your phone or other mobile devices in order to use Skype or any other video conferencing service.

13. The Person Dying Abused Me. If the person who abused you or abandoned you is dying and you are asked to come to their death bed, please know you don’t have to if you don’t want to. This is your choice. If the person dying asks for your forgiveness, you have the choice to give that freely but no one can force that on you. I wrote a separate post that may be helpful to you, it’s calledWhen Your Abuser or Abandoner Dies: How to Copeand I hope it helps.

After Death: Preparing the Body

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Once your loved one has died, take time to sit with their body for your own process of letting them go.

Some people are comfortable washing the body in preparation for burial, others are not. Please know there is no right or wrong decision here. If you want to wash the body, then do so, slowly and with care, with the assistance of the nurses if they are available to you. If you do not want to do this, then ask the nurse or hospice provider at the house to wash the body before it is sent to the morgue or transported to the funeral home.

Pick out clothes for your loved one to be buried or cremated in. You can either dress the body or send those clothes with their body to the funeral home or cremation service. Don’t worry about shoes, they can go barefoot or with their favorite warm socks to the funeral home or cremation.

After Death: Feeling Relieved/Happy/Sad All At the Same Time

After sitting vigil and experiencing death, you may feel a degree of relief that your loved one’s suffering is over, and it is o.k. to feel that way. As much as you loved them and will miss them, you feel relieved that they are no longer suffering physical hardship or pain. Relief is a perfectly normal reaction to the death of a loved one who has been suffering.

One friend of mine went through a particularly grueling death process with his father, who suffered horribly for five years before he died. When his father died, he called me and said, “I can’t stop smiling! People are going to think I didn’t love my Dad, and of course, I did, but I’m just so happy for him that all of his sufferings are over. What do I do? Friends are coming over right now to mourn with us.” In this family they were all devout Christians, so I suggested he keep smiling and simply tell his truth by saying to mourners, “I’m happy because he’s with the Lord and his suffering is over.” Whatever your religious beliefs, or if you have no religious affiliation, it is usual and universal to feel a sense of relief when someone you love, who had been suffering,has died.

It’s also usual to feel some degree of euphoria at the end of a vigil, to have a sense that the universe is much larger than yourself. You have just been living in sacred space while attending your loved one in their death process. In many ways, this is similar to birth. This experiencing of death first hand is the essence of life, of existence in human form. Let yourself feel whatever comes up for you. It may help to journal or meditate about the experience, to write letters of thanks to those who helped in this journey, to cry and to laugh. Please let yourself feel everything from profound sadness to relief to joy after a vigil is over.

Again, these are just some suggestions for how to comfort a dying person while sitting vigil at their death bed, and some of the emotions you might experience in the hours or first days after a death. If you have been through the death of a loved one, if you have sat vigil at a death bed and have helpful advice to offer, please leave a comment to share with other readers – your thoughts are welcome here!

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What to do while sitting with someone who is dying? ›

Sit by their bedside and graze softly at the person with love and compassion and celebrating the memories good and bad that you co-created. Then sit with your own mortality and what the loss of this person may mean to you. And wait for a sign from them, from yourself or from an angel or from life itself.

What do you do when someone is on death bed? ›

What Do You Say At Someone's Deathbed?
  1. ASK HOW THEY ARE FEELING. One of the most important things you can do for your dying loved one is to ensure their comfort. ...
Dec 30, 2021

What does sitting vigil mean? ›

Abstract. Sitting vigil is a time filled with waiting for a long overdue death, sleeplessness, exhaustion, frazzled nerves and the constant postponing of life's responsibilities and obligations as the transition from life to death has become a part of reality.

What is a death vigil? ›

The Natural Funeral supports those families that want to spend time with their loved-one after death during a vigil or wake. A vigil is a special time for families to gather together, sometimes in a home setting, to mark the transition of death in the presence of their deceased loved-one.

What not to say to someone who is dying? ›

What not to say to someone who is dying
  • Don't ask 'How are you?' ...
  • Don't just focus on their illness. ...
  • Don't make assumptions. ...
  • Don't describe them as 'dying' ...
  • Don't wait for them to ask.
May 24, 2018

Should you leave a dying person alone? ›

Some people prefer to be alone

Of course, it may be the case that many people would prefer to have their family around them when they are dying. But there is evidence that suggests that some people would prefer to be alone as they are coming to the end of their lives.

What to say to comfort the dying? ›

  • “I know this wasn't an easy decision to make. ...
  • “I don't like this, but we're going to do our best with this time.”
  • “I'm sad, of course, but I'm also glad you're in a place where you don't have to fight so hard anymore.”
  • “I'm praying for you to feel at peace and to know how much you're loved.”
Apr 30, 2020

How do you say goodbye to someone on their deathbed? ›

How to Say Goodbye to a Friend If You Can See Them Face-to-Face
  1. Visit often. The best gift you can give to someone who is dying is the gift of your time. ...
  2. Talk openly about death. ...
  3. Find out what scares them. ...
  4. Find closure. ...
  5. Offer to help. ...
  6. Write a goodbye letter. ...
  7. Make a scrapbook. ...
  8. Offer hugs.
Jun 28, 2021

Why do you cover mirrors when someone dies? ›

Covering Mirrors

Mirrors are also covered as a way to remind us the observation of shiva is not about ourselves but rather a time to concentrate on the deceased. The concept of vanity is shunned as this is considered a time of self-reflection, to concentrate on one's inner self and not outward appearances.

Why do nurses open a window when someone dies? ›

Opening the window after someone dies is a tradition that hasn't died out. All over the world many nurses and families abide by this practice. It is said the souls of ancestors gather at the time of death of a family member and, regardless, this aids the soul transitioning to the next world.

Why do you close the curtains when someone dies? ›

Symbolically, when we choose to close the curtains, the person's who's died leaves us. The coffin disappears from view while we are still there, remaining present to mourn and gather ourselves ready to integrate the changes the death has wrought and re-enter the world to begin a new chapter without them.

Do you wear black to a vigil? ›

Do you have to wear all black to a wake? No, you do not. Your clothing can be darker colors such as blue or grey. Earth tones and neutral tones are acceptable as well.

What candles to bring to a vigil? ›

White Vigil Candles are an excellent choice for hand-held candlelight vigils, tributes, memorials, church services, candlelight ceremonies, remembrances, concerts, and for placing in luminaries. To save hands from hot wax, each unscented candle features a paper drip protector that will catch every drop.

What a dying person wants to hear? ›

The most important thing to remember when talking with someone who is in the process of dying is to speak from your heart. Be sincere, compassionate, and willing to listen. Showing up for them can help them feel supported, loved, and seen during this transition.

When someone is dying do they know? ›

A conscious dying person can know if they are on the verge of dying. Some feel immense pain for hours before dying, while others die in seconds. This awareness of approaching death is most pronounced in people with terminal conditions such as cancer.

What does a person think when they are dying? ›

You may feel like you've 'had enough'. Thoughts and feelings like this are normal and very common among family members and people providing care. Sometimes the dying process happens over a few days. This can be distressing for some people.

What is the surge before death? ›

Some people experience a brief surge in energy in the hours or days before death. This may last from a few minutes to several hours. During this time, your loved one may talk more, be interested in engaging in conversation, or interested in eating or drinking.

What is the most common time of death? ›

There's even a circadian rhythm of death, so that in the general population people tend on average to be most likely to die in the morning hours. Sometime around 11 am is the average time,” says Saper.

What are the signs of last days of life? ›

End-of-Life Signs: The Final Days and Hours
  • Breathing difficulties. Patients may go long periods without breathing, followed by quick breaths. ...
  • Drop in body temperature and blood pressure. ...
  • Less desire for food or drink. ...
  • Changes in sleeping patterns. ...
  • Confusion or withdraw.

What is the last thing to go when dying? ›

Summary: Hearing is widely thought to be the last sense to go in the dying process.

How long do the final stages of death last? ›

Active dying is the final phase of the dying process. While the pre-active stage lasts for about three weeks, the active stage of dying lasts roughly three days. By definition, actively dying patients are very close to death, and exhibit many signs and symptoms of near-death.

What Bible verses to read when someone is dying? ›

Comforting Bible Verses For Death
  • Revelation 21:4. 'He will wipe every tear from their eyes. ...
  • Psalm 34:18. The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
  • Psalm 147:3. He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
  • John 14:1. ...
  • Joshua 1:9. ...
  • Romans 8:28. ...
  • Matthew 5:4. ...
  • 1 Thessalonians 4:13-14.
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Can people hear you on their deathbed? ›

New research from the University of B.C. shows that even on their deathbed, our loved ones are listening.

Should you go see a dying relative? ›

Ask Permission to Visit a Dying Person

First, call the primary family caregiver and ask if a visit would be appreciated. People who are dying often experience energy in waves. Some days they may want a visitor, while on other days, they may be too tired.

When it rains after someone dies What does that mean? ›

In fact, Victorians believed if it rained after there had been a death, the rain signified a cleansing of the soul of the deceased. The arrival of the rain meant the soul was moving on to the next life, since in nature rain always brings new plant life and growth.

What is called one year after death? ›

In India (and Nepal), a death anniversary is known as shraadh (Shraaddha "श्राद्ध" in Nepali). The first death anniversary is called a barsy, from the word baras, meaning year in Hindi. Shraadh means to give with devotion or to offer one's respect.

What happens if we sleep in front of mirror? ›

It brings nightmares. “When we sleep, our soul (i.e. astral body) leaves the (physical) body. When the soul sees its own reflection, it gets startled, hence the bad dreams and nightmares… When the soul returns to the body, it may mistake the image in the mirror from the real body, hence the saying 'soul-stealing.

What is the last breath before death called? ›

Agonal breathing or agonal gasps are the last reflexes of the dying brain. They are generally viewed as a sign of death, and can happen after the heart has stopped beating.

What is a death grimace? ›

When a person is no longer conscious, delirium can take the form of restlessness, moaning, groaning and grimacing. These signs of agitation are not usually signs of pain, however.

What is the rule of three in nursing? ›

The rule of three that can be used by the preceptor here is "How is the patient the same, better, or worse than yesterday?". What is the evidence that the nurse needs to know to answer that question?

Why do they cover the legs in a casket? ›

They cover the legs in a casket because the deceased is not wearing shoes in many cases due to the difficulty of putting them on stiff feet. Also, funeral directors may recommend it to save money, for religious reasons, in the event of trauma, for easier transportation, or with tall bodies.

Why do they put white gloves on the dead? ›

A pallbearer is one of several participants who help carry the casket at a funeral. They may wear white gloves in order to prevent damaging the casket and to show respect to the deceased person.

Why did they throw water in front of the funeral procession? ›

The water used to wash the corpse before placement in the coffin was traditionally kept to be thrown in front of the hooves of the horse drawing the funeral carriage. Later, this developed into the symbolic act of neighbors and family throwing buckets of water as a mark of respect for the dead.

How do I prepare for a night vigil? ›

Tips for Preparing for Prayer Vigil
  1. Create your own sacred space. ...
  2. Find a meditative technique that works best for you. ...
  3. Be prepared for an emotional experience and allow it to happen. ...
  4. Have some comforting items nearby. ...
  5. Set aside 30 minutes. ...
  6. Stay in the stillness. ...
  7. Visit as often as you like.

How do you hold a prayer vigil? ›

During a prayer vigil, consider including religious texts, symbols, and rituals (e.g. clerical vestments, candlelit processions, foot washings, and hymns). If your vigil is ecumenical and/or interfaith, be respectful and welcoming of all faiths present and keep from elevating any one tradition over another.

What is night vigil? ›

A night vigil is a prayer which takes place all through the night. This means that the hour of the third clock (midnight) will catch you in prayers. And as we all know, there is power in midnight prayer. Midnight is the hour of battle in the heavenly places.

What should you not say at a funeral? ›

Seven Things You Should Never Say at Funerals
  • “He/She Deserved to Die” ...
  • “It Could be Worse” ...
  • “It was Destiny” ...
  • “Everything Happens for a Reason” ...
  • “At Least…” ...
  • “You're Still Young” ...
  • “It's Better…”
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Can I wear leggings to a funeral? ›

Funeral Attire For Winter

The rules of what you wear inside will pretty much remain the same for a winter funeral (if it's indoors). You have some more details to pay attention to while layering up. Choose neutral or black color trench coats or long jackets, opaque leggings, and winter boots.

What is the Catholic tradition when someone dies? ›

What is the Catholic tradition when someone dies? The funeral rite is a series of rituals carried out after someone passes away. Catholic funeral traditions include three ceremonies: the wake, the funeral mass, and the committal.

Do I bring my own candle to a vigil? ›

To offset costs, ask guests to bring a candle of their own. But be prepared with extra candles and lighters to help other participants. You can also consider making wax catchers out of paper plates.

Are candles provided at a vigil? ›

A candlelight vigil or candlelit vigil is an outdoor assembly of people carrying candles, held after sunset in order to show support for a specific cause. Such events are typically held either to protest the suffering of some marginalized group of people, or in memory of the dead.

How long are candlelight vigils? ›

Vigils are typically held after sunset at a designated location and attendees will light candles which burn during the vigil. Gatherings are usually one hour in length (formal vigils may be longer). Families may include poems, prayers, singing, and speakers(public and/or religious officials) as a part of the vigil.

Should you stay with someone who is dying? ›

Staying close to someone who is dying is often called keeping a vigil. It can be comforting for the caregiver or other family members to always be there, but it can also be tiring and stressful. Unless your cultural or religious traditions require it, do not feel that you must stay with the person all the time.

What to bring when visiting a dying person? ›

Here are a few gift ideas that are appropriate and that may bring comfort to the hospice patient:
  • Digital Photo Frame. ...
  • Soothing Candles. ...
  • Water Bottle Cover. ...
  • Warm, Comfortable Blanket. ...
  • Contemplative Figure. ...
  • Life on Record Account. ...
  • Digital Voice Recorder.
Dec 7, 2016

What to say to comfort the dying? ›

  • “I know this wasn't an easy decision to make. ...
  • “I don't like this, but we're going to do our best with this time.”
  • “I'm sad, of course, but I'm also glad you're in a place where you don't have to fight so hard anymore.”
  • “I'm praying for you to feel at peace and to know how much you're loved.”
Apr 30, 2020

Does a dying person know they are dying? ›

A conscious dying person may know that they are dying. They may exhibit certain signs when near the end of their life.

What is the last breath before death called? ›

Agonal breathing or agonal gasps are the last reflexes of the dying brain. They are generally viewed as a sign of death, and can happen after the heart has stopped beating.

What is a surge before death? ›

Pre-Death Energy Surge. Some people experience a brief surge in energy in the hours or days before death. This may last from a few minutes to several hours. During this time, your loved one may talk more, be interested in engaging in conversation, or interested in eating or drinking.

What are the 5 signs of death? ›

To figure out who is too dead to be saved, emergency responders look for five signs of irreversible death:
  • Decapitation.
  • Decomposition.
  • Postmortem lividity.
  • Postmortem rigidity.
  • Burned beyond recognition.
May 5, 2022

What are the first signs of your body shutting down? ›

Signs that the body is actively shutting down are:
  • abnormal breathing and longer space between breaths (Cheyne-Stokes breathing)
  • noisy breathing.
  • glassy eyes.
  • cold extremities.
  • purple, gray, pale, or blotchy skin on knees, feet, and hands.
  • weak pulse.
  • changes in consciousness, sudden outbursts, unresponsiveness.
Nov 23, 2020

When should you visit a dying parent? ›

You may have said your goodbyes already and not feel a need to be there when they die. Interaction does matter to the person dying, so visiting in the months and years before death would be the best route to take to help meet their needs.

Should you send flowers to a dying person? ›

Even if the patient is no longer able to talk, the exchange of flowers often unlocks an exchange of memories and interactions among family members and visitors, as well as with hospice staff.

What Bible verses to read when someone is dying? ›

Comforting Bible Verses For Death
  • Revelation 21:4. 'He will wipe every tear from their eyes. ...
  • Psalm 34:18. The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
  • Psalm 147:3. He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
  • John 14:1. ...
  • Joshua 1:9. ...
  • Romans 8:28. ...
  • Matthew 5:4. ...
  • 1 Thessalonians 4:13-14.
Dec 14, 2021

How long do the final stages of death last? ›

Active dying is the final phase of the dying process. While the pre-active stage lasts for about three weeks, the active stage of dying lasts roughly three days. By definition, actively dying patients are very close to death, and exhibit many signs and symptoms of near-death.


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